Student column: You can keep the change
Change is a scary thing for most people. We have a routine and we like to stick to it. There is a sense of comfort that comes with having a regular schedule.
It makes us feel safe and secure. When that security is broken, it can be difficult to cope with. Some of the major changes that can happen are getting married, buying a house, having children, and they all come with their ups and downs.
As a full time student, I’m not looking for any of those changes anytime soon. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t experience change. One thing I’m going to have to deal with soon is my older sister moving away for college. Now that’s a dramatic change that some other high schoolers can relate to.
If you’re the youngest child, ever since you were born you have spent your life with your older sibling. You didn’t really have much of a choice. As young kids, most siblings probably fought a lot, just like all the other siblings around the world. No matter what country you live in or what language you speak, bickering with your older brother or sister is something you have to deal with.
But in my sister and my case, as we got older we became closer. The fighting dwindled to a stop and she became my go to person with anything. I can tell her anything about everything and she is always there for me. It’s something I’ve gotten used to. She’s my built in best friend. And now all of a sudden, there’s talk about her packing up her things and moving off, away from home and away from me.
It’s a scary thought. Once she leaves, everything will be different. It will be like I’m an only child, which I so dearly wished for when we were in the fighting stages of our relationship. But now all I want is for her to stay.
I won’t have her to go to when I need a friend to talk to. She won’t be here to have sister nights with me. Once she’s at college, there will be no sister movie nights like there were before. We won’t be able to bond over our love of chick flicks or the new cute boy at school.
Change is scary, and it seems to be happening so fast. There are many other types of change, but it affects us all at some point in our lives. It could be an everyday thing, or a once in a year thing. It can be planned, or unexpected. Whether it’s something small like trying a new drink at Starbucks, or big like trying to get over the loss of a loved one, we can all be impacted by change.
In changing times, good or bad, it’s comforting to know that you are not alone and it happens to everybody. Think of that the next time you are experiencing change.